Speaking up and asking for what you want is hard at the best of times, but when you add in the topic of intimacy and pleasure, it can leave people terrified. Fears are often rooted in things that are nothing to do with physical intimacy, but in the moment, this is what we focus on....
Even though the practice of breathwork has been around for years, it has risen in popularity over the last 3 or 4 years. It seems to be the latest thing to try and every hip and trendy person has a story to tell about their experiences. While it’s great that so many people are talking...
When we think about what we are capable of, we never think big enough. We look at others and we believe that somehow they have something we don’t and that perhaps they were always destined for more. We tell ourselves that we don’t have it in us to live that way and to take the...
We all have an inner child that can make itself known at the most inconvenient times. Often when we’re facing something new or unfamiliar, embracing change or taking a risk and sometimes when life simply gets too good. Your inner child made decisions all those years ago, that certain things will happen in life and...
“Stress, anxiety and depression are caused when we are living to please others.” – Paulo Coelho How true this quote is and as a recovering people pleaser, I learnt the hard way how pointless people pleasing can be. When you sacrifice yourself at the expense of others, you rarely get your deeper needs met, by those you’re bending over...
When you think of women speaking up, what perceptions come to mind? Do you think: They’re brave, confident, know who they are, they’re go getters, assertive, determined, honest, forthright, powerful and strong. They have incredible boundaries, they make loving choices for themselves and are taking responsibility for their own life. Or, do you see ‘those’...
“Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.” (Brene Brown) Some people just intuitively know how far they can push us and exactly what to say or do, to get what they want or need. It can leave us feeling exhausted, violated and completely under...
One of the reasons we can decide not to speak up, is because we have this ingrained belief that people just don’t listen to us. Often this belief is formed in childhood when our voice wasn’t heard and then it’s compounded over the years. The belief becomes stronger and stronger until it’s now a truth!...
When you think of speaking up, do you relish the opportunity to be heard, or do you feel yourself shrinking and feeling fearful? Perhaps you envy those people who have the ability to say whatever they think and seem to have no care at all over any conflict that may arise? Maybe you want to...
Everyday I see amazing women censor themselves and hold themselves back because they fear expressing their truth and using their voice. Old programming and fear, is telling them that something bad will happen if they speak their truth – conflict, rejection, judgement, criticism, not being heard, humiliation, not getting what they want, or potentially hurting...